November is National Caregivers Month, an appropriate time to reflect on our roles as caregivers, and a time to look forward to creating even more quality days and moments for ourselves and our loved ones.
If we work on improving three common mistakes, we can achieve more of those quality moments!
don’t avoid your feelings.
don’t avoid dealing with family conflict.
- keep everyone informed.
- have frequent meetings/gatherings.
- seek common agreements before dealing with disagreements.
Third, don’t do everything yourself. Build your caregiving community from your network of family, then friends, and then community and professional contacts.
Caregivers, particularly those dealing with chronic illness, can easily wear themselves out and it is a mistake to go it alone. Other people may complete your tasks in a different way than you might, but let your feelings about “doing everything a certain way” go and roll with the flow. Some tips for letting others help:
- begin with one trusted person and delegate a few, specific tasks.
- slowly develop a wider circle of friends, family, and community members to take on appropriate roles.
- write down your successes as others help you in your caregiving role.
- make sure to include professionals like attorneys, accountants, and spiritual advisors in your community circle.
Finally, always keep the goal in mind–creating quality moments and quality days for you and your loved ones. Have a wonderful November and Happy Caregivers Month!
Margery Pabst is the author of “,, and eCareDiary.com. “ ” is her fourth book on life transitions. Margery is eCareDiary’s caregiving expert and the host of two BlogTalkRadio shows, Caregivers Speak! and Caregiver and Physician Conversations, sponsored by eCareDiary.com ”, her most recent book found on